So I do not usualy watch the Grammys and this year was no different, but when I return home from work and jumped on Facebook and Twitter, I only seemed to be able to read about it. The next morning I went online to see if I could find the performances and I was completely surprised. Usually, all of the performances on the Grammys are not good, in my opinion, but this year seemed to be the exception. Though the performance of Nicki Minaj moved Hip-hop back [somewhere between] 15 to 20 years the other performances were amazing. Bruno Mars, Alicia Keys and Bonnie Raitt, Jennifer Hudson and more. Seriously, if you have not seen any of the footage you should check them out here.
Anyways, I noticed something that disturbed me and I wondered how many people were as disturbed at The Grammys choice to showcase so much of Chris Brown. If you remember Brown was arrested and subsequently convicted for assaulting his then-girlfriend Rihanna on the eve of the 2009 Grammys,but his acceptance speech after winning best R&B album included no act of contrition whatsoever .
It seemed odd to me that Chris Brown performed twice and won an award in front of the woman that he assaulted. I also realize the the Grammys are by no means the moral compass of my life but it did make some truths clear.
- Chris Brown is a great entertainer, his performances were great.
- Based off of his abilities and album Chris Brown deserved to dance, sing, and get an award.
- For Rihanna, this whole night could not have been easy at all, I could only imagine.
Reality is that Grammys and music industry are built for fame and seems to be much quicker to forgive Chris Brown than most communities built for Christ are.
This is where it becomes hard for me and the place where I would love for you to weigh in. I have not been hurt [physically] like Rihanna before nor have I had to watch the perpetrator be rewarded with the most illustrious award in the industry that I work. I can not imagine what it must feel like to be in that place, but I also know that the Bible is clear that I am to forgive as I was forgiven. This is where you will see me differ with convential wisdom that says:
“Forgive and Forget”
I don’t have the ability to forget nor is it my job to forget the Chris Brown’s of my life, but it is my job, as a Christ follower to forgive. I do not know that the Christian community, as a whole, does a great job in this regard despite the fact that our salvation begins with the forgiveness of more heinous crimes than that of Chris Brown.
I would love to know some of your thoughts…