A humble explanation

There are many times in life when God will humble you, this was one of them.

Our Memorial Day was shaping up, marinated rib-eyes, some landscaping, general nothingness and then my mom called. As a child we would make the trip to Columbia, MO almost every year. Honestly, I never truly grasped the complete reason but I always looked forward to staying in the Drury Inn, swimming, and causing general trouble all around. Some years my parents would attend a ball and dance the night away, others we would visit my mothers friends and acquaintances in the area. Every year we would make our way over to Memorial cemetery and place flowers on two graves; Alton (A.J.) and Julia Patton my grandparents. Unfortunately, they passed on before I was born so all I know of them are based in stories from my mom. This year we passed on this tradition to my children and it was humbling to say the least. Though they may not grasp what has happened a baton was passed and a new generation was given responsibility to understand and remember.

As we entered the graveyard my daughter immediately began asking questions:

What is this place? A place where people who have died are buried.
Why were they buried? It’s a tradition that we practice that reflects God when He buried his servants (Deuteronomy 34:6) and one day these bodies will be resurrected to be with Jesus [if they loved and followed Him] (1 Corinthians 15:42)!
Will Jesus have to learn all of our names? No, babydoll He already knows them. As a matter of fact he knew your name before mommy and daddy did.
So will you be buried here? Well we will be buried, but where we do not know yet.

To be honest I was not prepared for the questions being volleyed our way but I was really impressed with the inquisitiveness of my daughter. What was humbling was simply thinking of your own mortality. When we think of death we think of everyone else, them if you may. When you are answering these types of questions while walking through a cemetery you begin to think about your death, legacy, destination, children, ect and if you have any sense you hopefully and quickly will be humbled to realized how small and insignificant you really are.

I think this is why we do not travel his road much, we become overwhelmed in reality, yet there were were. Trudging through the mud and water searching for 2 coffins that represent our history and legacies while realizing that our fate would be the same all too soon.

I know that this post is not the upbeat post you may have come to expect but I just wanted to give a dose of reality. Thank you so much for reading!

Manhood in the 21st Century

This is a version of a talk that I gave at an Apples of Gold Banquet at Concord…

It’s not easy being a man . . .

Think about it:

Who gets alerted when the spider needs to be killed or the weeds whacked? The man.
Who gets awoken out of a dead sleep when it’s time to fix a leaky roof, plunge a clogged toilet, wet vac a flooded basement, or stop a ninja from burglarizing the house? The man.
Who gets called and asked how to work the universal remote so not to miss recording a crappy romantic “dramedy” (dramatic comedy, that is) which he will later be forced to watch under the threat of perpetual married celibacy?
And that one time that people thought I cried in public, but I can assure you, those were not tears, they were beads of sweat from having to do the hard part during delivery

That’s right, I am a MAN. Now that I have my brothers attention and to any sisters in Christ who are creeping on this blog obviously written just for men, allow me to speak realistically and sincerely for a minute. The world has given us a truly jacked up vision of true “manhood.” We live in an age where men get applauded simply for showing up inside a church, sticking around to be the father, getting married, or for not being addicted to pornography. Let’s be honest praising someone for these things is just ridiculous.

Fathers Pursuing Christ see their children as a blessing from God: Never give in to the notion that your children are anything but a blessing from God.
Fathers Pursuing Christ understand that their children are born with a bent toward evil: Children are born in total depravity. All the potential for sin of every kind is already present in seed form in every child. Parental tolerance, passivity and lack of involvement will allow the seed to germinate.
Fathers Pursuing Christ believe the Gospel is the Good News for Children: Leading your children to Jesus is a long-term, full-time duty given to parents. Genuine faith is prompted by God’s work in the heart of a child and assured by the Holy Spirit.
Fathers Pursuing Christ train their children to honor and obey: This principle of obeying parents lays the foundation for every other principle about how we should treat our fellow human beings. It also lays the foundation for how one is to obey the Heavenly Father.
Fathers Pursuing Christ practice and demonstrate submission:
- Father submits to Christ
- Family submits to father
- Father submits to wife’s needs
- Wife submits to Christ
- Wife submits to the leadership of the husband as granted by God
- Children submit to parent’s authority
- Parents submit to children’s needs
Fathers Pursuing Christ love their wives: Love is the summarizing duty of fathers. Leadership flows from love. Love is sacrificial, Love is purifying, Love is caring, Love is Enduring.

P.S. Confession: Yes, I have wept publicly on those and many more occasions – and so did Jesus, so back off (John 11:35).

“I am Black and I am Gay…”

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… was the statement made by Jason Collins a gay NBA player through Sports illustrated. The news quickly turned from Tim Tebow’s release to the impact of this and it’s implications in today’s sports. Honestly, I did not really plan to comment, but that all changed after watching Chris Broussard’s commentary for ESPN (please see the full interview above).

Yesterday, after leaving work I was made aware of ESPN’s “Outside the Lines” and their discussion between two sportswriters: the [openly gay Christian] L.Z. Granderson and [straight Christian] Chris Broussard. The long and short of it is this, Jason Collins still claims to be a Christian even though he is openly gay. ESPN asked Broussard to comment on Collins’ claim that one can be both gay and Christian. Broussard answered the question politely and boldly, and he did so as a Christian here he is in his own words:

Personally, I don’t believe that you can live an openly homosexual lifestyle or an openly, like premarital sex between heterosexuals. If you’re openly living that type of lifestyle, then the Bible says you know them by their fruits. It says that, you know, that’s a sin. If you’re openly living in unrepentant sin, whatever it may be, not just homosexuality, whatever it maybe, I believe that’s walking in open rebellion to God and to Jesus Christ. So I would not characterize that person as a Christian because I don’t think the bible would characterize them as a Christian.

Depending on what side of the debate you find yourself I am sure you know what came next. After Broussard gave is his opinion (which he was asked for), there was an immediate backlash across the internet. Many in the press and on social medai called Broussard’s words “hateful”, while the President decided to call him and congratulate him for “his bravery”. Even ESPN issued a statement saying that it regretted the distraction from Jason Collins’ announcement. I think the criticism of Broussard is completely unwarranted. I want to clarify Broussard did not volunteer these remarks. He was asked by ESPN to comment on Jason Collins’ claim to be a Christian in the context of a [respectful] discussion on the subject and he did. So I would like to add my “amen” to what Chris Broussard had to say. Not that he knows or even cares what I think but this is a conversation that needs to happen and he skillfully defended the faith in a forum that many would falter in, and it was a beautiful thing.

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A quick note to those who are reading this post who may not be Christian,

The Bible does NOT single-out homosexuality as the worst sin, nor does it permit mistreatment of homosexuals and I am not in anyway advocating either of those things here. The Bible does, however, hold forth a stringent standard of sexual morality that we all fall short of (e.g., Matt. 5:28), I being the chief among the sinners. That means that all of us are sinners and that all of us are in desperate need of a Savior.

The good news is that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, both heterosexual and homosexual. He died on the cross and took upon Himself the punishment that we deserved. Then God raised Him from the dead three days later, and He is right now seated at the right hand of God. Now anyone can receive forgiveness and eternal life if they would but repent from their sin and believe in Christ. God’s arm is not too short to save (Isaiah 59:1), and if you would repent and believe, they would reach you as well.

What are your thoughts on Broussard’s comments?

Control is the greatest illusion

I am not a a control freak in the classic since but I know I have issues. Don’t we all? I like to be the one to drive, I like to have my say in the restaurant I go to and when it comes to speed limit signs I follow the ‘spirit’ of the law!

However, as I get closer to finishing my internship here at Concord the Lord has been really reminding me of somethings lately through His Word and a some very godly friends. Do you want to know what it is? If you have not read the title then you are the only one who does not know, control is merely an illusion. Seriously, have you sat back and tried to understand how little control we actually have in the world.

We don’t control the day we are born!
We don’t control who our parents were!
We don’t control where we are born!
We don’t control the color of our skin, eyes and hair.
We don’t control when and where we step into eternity.
We don’t control other drivers on the road (man I wish I could).
We don’t control what other people think about us.
We don’t control our children’s future. (I can try to direct it, but I can’t control it!)
We don’t control the weather.
We don’t control how fast (or slow) the person in front of me is driving.
We don’t control whether or not someone we know and loves prays to receive Christ.
We don’t control the fact that our bodies are breaking down (I heal/repair MUCH slower now than I did at 20!)
We don’t control God by my religious performance.

In fact, if I can control anything then the very thing I can control is so small and insignificant that it would hardly register on the eternal scale in regards to things that actually matter. However, I do not want to write this to discourage you actually quite the opposite. I wrote this because it is literally one of the most encouraging revelations I have ever received in my life. Freedom, TRUE freedom, is understanding how out of control we are and then placing our faith in a God who has NEVER ceased to maintain control over what He has created. God has the amazing ability to use all things for His glory and our good.

So if you feels like you are out of control, it’s because probably are. The more we try to control the more likely we are to live in complete rebellion to the One who is in control, who has all things in His hands and who constantly calls us to surrender to Him so that we can experience the joy of living under His sovereignty rather than having to constantly discover that we have none of our own. If there is an area of your life that is completely out of control, if your whole life is completely out of control, it is most likely the Lord trying to get your attention and get you to surrender.

Control is nothing more than an illusion, we have none, He has it all and in His hand is THE BEST place to be!

A Marathon Bombing, the Broken World, and Our Maranatha Hope

After yesterdays senseless tragedy I once again found myself trying to put into words what my heart was feeling, there seems to be a lot of that latel y. Once again, the trolls came out of the wood work to claim conspiracy, Obama, our lack of repentance, economic faculties, etc. The truth is so much more simple than any of us want it to be, creation is broken. While writing a friend of mine sent me this article by Ed Stetzer and instead of trying to outsmart everyone else I just commend this one to you.

Today is another sad day– another tragedy. It will likely not be the last, regrettably. On days like these, commentators will ask “where was God in this?” or “why would God let something like this happen?” There are no easy answers to those questions. And while we may not be offered answers, we are offered hope and a promise in the midst of the brokenness.

Look around. Our world is broken. I’m not talking about the “world” in terms of nature (although creation, too, bears the marks of sin’s blemish and decay). I’m talking about the “world” comprised of the people, structures, and systems that make up society– the moral patterns, beliefs, and behaviors that result in things like unfair business practices, racism, extreme poverty, dishonest government, dirty politics, family breakdown, cheating, stealing, oppression of the weak, and so many other distressors and defilers.

Of course, tragedy is daily living in much of the world. Churches are bombed regularly in Nigeria; sexual violence trafficking is real and growing, and poverty is deep and pervasive. The world is broken. Sinfulness impacts everything.

Yet, we are reminded on days like this, our hope is in a new kingdom.

A kingdom reigned by a returning King.

A kingdom with no more terrorist threats or bombings. No more thoughts of death to keep us up at night.

How could there be, since there won’t be any more “night” to experience– absolutely nothing to make us think back on a life that was so regularly troubled by fear, anger, bitterness, anxiety, and lingering doubts? They’re all gone. All the time.

Keep all of this in mind.

Read about it and meditate on it often.

The Kingdom has come because the King has come, but it is not yet fully here. That is why we pray, “Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” Because the kingdom is not yet fully here and complete– and the world is not yet, well, right.

So, we remember the “not yet” reality we are here to model and live. We live as agents of God’s kingdom, perhaps some ministering today in Boston, and certainly praying where we are.

The current state of life on this planet sure has a lot of brokenness. You’re right to be dissatisfied with it. But it’s not enough for Christians merely to recognize that the world isn’t what it ought to be and that people are suffering in ways they shouldn’t have to suffer. Our sorrow and indignation must lead us into action that subverts the brokenness that is real and present right now. We work to make this world more as God would intend it to be– with justice, peace, and more.

So we pray for His Kingdom to come, “on earth as it is in heaven.” Yet, it does not fully come until Jesus returns to set all things right. We pray for that day to come soon, particularly on days of tragedy.

There is just one use in the New Testament of the Aramaic word phrase, “Maranatha. Paul writes, “Maranatha that is, Lord, come!” (1 Corinthians 16:22). Most translate it as a cry for King Jesus to come soon. Yet, that one word has become a cry for Christians in pain, persecution, and much more.

This marathon tragedy drives us again to our Maranatha cry– “come quickly, Lord” and set things right.

In the meantime, may we live as agents of your kingdom– showing and sharing the love of Jesus– to a broken and lost world. But, days like these make us long for that Day, where the kingdoms of the world become the kingdoms of our God and King.

We pray “maranatha” today– and rightly so.

O death, where is your sting?

This last week has been a very interesting one in regards to life and death. I have watched a young mother pass on to glory leaving behind a newly single father and 2 young children (4 and 1). This one particularly hit home as we tried to explain to our 4 yr. old what happened to her friends mother. Additionally, that same husband lost his father not 24 hrs before. Though we as a church family grieve for and with him I will not even try to act as if i understand what pain he is experiencing. It seemed as if everywhere I looked there was death

My best friend’s Grandmother
Margaret Thatcher
Pastor Rick and Kay Warren’s son committed suicide
and many more…

This week in funerals and Memorial services all over the world pastors and friends will say:

“O death, where is your victory? O death, where is your sting?” – 1 Corinthians 15:55 (Hosea 13:14)

Like me we may be a bit confused by this reference but I think that there are a few few answers:

Death’s [temporary] victory and [momentary] sting is evident in this moment, but, eternity is a reality. Everyone is going to die and spend eternity somewhere and there is amazing peace when you know that someone you loved has been made new and is in the presence of Christ. and the victory and sting of death are gone.
Everyone grieves differently and grief is a very natural and perfectly acceptable thing for us as humans to feel. However, as there is a season for everything we cannot allow the death of someone we love to rob me of the life that we have left. We will always feel a deep sense of loss in regards to our loved one but grief is not a place for me to stay but rather a season I must go through Also, know and understand there IS joy on the other side. (1 Thessalonians 4:13)
If Romans 8:26 – 30 is true even when I don’t feel it then we must rest in our Father’s will. I have said before and I will say it again, “maturity in a believer is marked by our choice to trust what God’s Word says rather than the way we feel.” Doing this is not always the easiest thing but the FACTS of God’s Word are way [much] more reliable than my feelings. This has been a struggle for me when I have lost loved ones but at the end of the day I know God is still God and God is still good.
Relationships with other people should never be taken for granted. We should never assume that people know how we feel about them and if there is someone in you love in your life you should do all that you can do to make that relationship right. You may need to stop reading right now and call someone who just came to your mind. Your life is too short to live with bitterness and regret.
Community: Family (immediate and extended), friends, a local church. This world will crush someone who tries to face it alone and one of the Bible’s core values is simple, we cannot do life alone. This will never become more evident than when you lose someone you love and are desperate.

These are only a few of my thoughts on death and I’m sure throughout the week I might add others but I would love to know what you think/ experience when you come face to face with death.