**Note from Jon: Sorry I have been missing lately, there has been much going on in our lives and I will (hopefully) update you soon on everything God has been teaching me and showing me.**

I’m not one to kill an animal if there is no reason (unless my wife request it).  Honestly, I hate killing just about anything if I don’t need to and I really don’t do well with death, it’s just not natural.  For example, when Heather and I were first married she had a beta fish named “Boaz” (a story for another day) that decided to die, but I digress.With fall upon us I have noticed the annual onslaught of bugs into our house seeking a warmer climate.  I hate this but I know it is natural so we try to prepare as much as we can.  I sprayed a “bug barrier” around our house, our landlord pays for a service that treats our yard, and when needed we with war face to face.

Over and over I run into this scenario.  The other night I was leaving work and while walking out through the security door I noticed something.  A small cricket was jumping up and hitting the door, repeatedly.  I stopped for a second and looked at the situation and decided that someone after me would kill this bug so I decided to just help him out.  I walked over to the door that lead to the outside and opened it.  As I opened the door the funniest thing happened… the cricket jumped the other way! “Seriously!”, I said out loud and watched the scared creature bound away, I was confused.  So I tried to pursue it and I honestly must have looked like an idiot, i mean a 250lb man chasing a fingernail sized creature trying to do what is best for it.  Finally, I caught the little booger and carried him outside and released it.  Did I get a thank you? Ha, nope! Actually, if it would have spoken I would have freaked out but I watch this scene happen over and over with bugs in all situations.  We’ve all tried to let the stupid buzzing fly out the window of your car while driving only to have it fly at you away from the open door.

I walked to my car and jumped in, through the keys in the ignition, took a deep breath…, and then had this message overwhelm me. “Jon, that scenario you were just in, I have doing that with you for years”.  It is so frustrating to know that God just used this tiny thing to teach me something about my unwillingness to submit to Him but He did and so I ask you what He asked me.

Why are you running from the open door that God opened?

A couple of weeks ago I was having coffee with a friend of mine.  It was a beautiful morning that reminded me of all the early morning coffees we have had over the years.  As we spoke we caught up on life, faith, and other various happenings in each others lives.  Towards the end of our conversation he handed me a book called “God’s Debris” written by Scott Adams the author of the Dilbert comic strips [my review is coming soon].  My friend said that this book asks many questions and because I love to ask questions this book might be good to jog my brain.  After he left I began to read the book and quickly realized that it posited a philosophical worldview that was immensely different than my own.  That being said there was a few statements that caught my attention and I wanted to get your opinion on one of them in particular.

“Four billion people say they believe in God, but few genuinely believe. If people believed in God, they would live every minute of their lives in support of that belief. Rich people would give their wealth to the needy. Everyone would be frantic to determine which religion was the true one. No one could be comfortable in the thought that they might have picked the wrong religion and blundered into eternal damnation, or bad reincarnation, or some other unthinkable consequence. People would dedicate their lives to converting others to their religions.  A belief in God would demand one hundred percent obsessive devotion, influencing every waking moment of this brief life on earth. But your four billion so-called believers do not live their lives in that fashion, except for a few. The majority believe in the usefulness of their beliefs—an earthly and practical utility—but they do not believe in the underlying reality… They say that they believe because pretending to believe is necessary to get the benefits of religion. They tell other people that they believe and they do believer-like things, like praying and reading holy books. But they don’t do the things that a true believer would do, the things a true believer would have to do.  If you believe a truck is coming toward you, you will jump out of the way. That is belief in the reality of the truck. If you tell people you fear the truck but do nothing to get out of the way, that is not belief in the truck. Likewise, it is not belief to say God exists and then continue sinning and hoarding your wealth while innocent people die of starvation. When belief does not control your most important decisions, it is not belief in the underlying reality, it is belief in the usefulness of believing.”

Are you saying God doesn’t exist?” I asked, trying to get to the point.

I’m saying that people claim to believe in God, but most don’t literally believe. They only act as though they believe because there are earthly benefits in doing so. They create a delusion for themselves because it makes them happy.

So you think only the atheists believe their own belief?” I asked.

No. Atheists also prefer delusions,” he said… The best any human can do is to pick a delusion that helps him get through the day. This is why people of different religions can generally live in peace. At some level, we all suspect that other people don’t believe their own religion any more than we believe ours.”

So hear is a really simple question, what do you think about what you just read?  Please comment below.

*** Disclaimer you should read before the post.  I have absolutely no wish for this conversation to deteriorate into whether or not Homosexuality is a sin.  I honestly do not care whether we agree or not.  That is not the point of this post.  Thank you! ***

Yes, what you are viewing is not a mirage, that is a man in his underwear hugging another (buckle to buckle I might add).  Honestly, this is a pretty touching moment when you read why this happened.  Let me give you the story.  The clothed man’s name is Nathan and here are some of excerpts from his blog (the Pride Parade outreach) on why and how this happened.

“What I loved most about the day is when people “got it.” I loved watching people’s faces as they saw our shirts, read the signs, and looked back at us. Responses were incredible. Some people blew us kisses, some hugged us, some screamed thank you. A couple ladies walked up and said we were the best thing they had seen all day.

Watching people recognize our apology brought me to tears many times. It was reconciliation personified.

My favorite though was a gentleman who was dancing on a float. He was dressed solely in white underwear and had a pack of abs like no one else. As he was dancing on the float, he noticed us and jokingly yelled, “What are you sorry for? It’s pride!” I pointed to our signs and watched him read them.

Then it clicked.

Then he got it.

He stopped dancing. He looked at all of us standing there. A look of utter seriousness came across his face. And as the float passed us he jumped off of it and ran towards us. He hugged me and whispered, “thank you.”

I think a lot of people would stop at the whole “man in his underwear dancing” part. That seems to be the most controversial. It’s what makes the evening news. It’s the stereotype most people have in their minds about Pride.

Sadly, most Christians want to run from such a sight rather than engage it. Most Christian won’t even learn if that person dancing in his underwear has a name. Well, he does. His name is Tristan.

However, I think Jesus would have hugged him too. It’s exactly what I read throughout scripture: Jesus hanging out with people that religious people would flee from. Correlation between then and now? I think so.

Acceptance is one thing. Reconciliation is another. Sure at Pride, everyone is accepted (except perhaps the protestors). There are churches that say they accept all. There are business that say the accept everyone. But acceptance isn’t enough. Reconciliation is.

Reconciliation forces one to remember the wrongs committed and relive constant pain. Yet it’s more powerful and transformational because two parties that should not be together and have every right to hate one another come together for the good of one another, for forgiveness, reconciliation, unity.

What I saw and experienced at Pride 2010 was the beginning of reconciliation. It was in the shocked faces of gay men and women who did not ever think Christians would apologize to them.

I hugged a man in his underwear. I hugged him tightly. And I am proud.”

This event happened a few weekends ago at a Chicago Pride parade, along with many other US cities, celebrated Gay Pride with a parade.  As a part of the weekend, Nathan and a group of over 30 Christians from various Chicago churches went to demonstrate at the Gay Pride Parade with the Marin Foundation.  Obviously, their demonstration was much different, though.  Our friends (sarcasm included) Fred Phelps and the crew were, by far, the most vocal “Christian” (and I use this word loosely) presence at the parade with their now [in]famous “God Hates Fags” signs, a team from the Marin Foundation took a different approach, they chose to apologize.

To be completely honest I am both happy and saddened by this event, here’s what I mean.  I think that precision in words is needed within this context.  Signs like “I’m sorry how the church has treated you”, “Im sorry for how the church has hurt you” and simply “I’m sorry” are pretty wide open for interpretation.

Which Church?

How have they hurt?

What did they do?

I’ve not been to a church (that I know off) that physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually hurts people, let alone homosexuals.  I’ve been involved in their counseling, recovery, and outreach programs and not seen discrimination.  Just for the record I have been apart of Southern Baptist Churches and attend a Southern Baptist Seminary(supposedly the worst of them all).  I also realize that I can only speak for those churches that I have been involved with and not every church.  It seems that the apology is for the Phelps crew or someone on TV.  How does [Phelps and crew] represent “the Church”?

As I have said before I have absolutely no wish for this conversation to deteriorate into whether or not Homosexuality is a sin.  I honestly do not care whether we agree or not.  The positions of the “Marin Foundation” and my own are different, but this does not lead me to question their individual lives in Christ.  Again, this is not the point of this post.

The Marin Foundation’s [short] Mission statement is “… to build a bridge between the religious and GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender) communities through scientific research, and Biblical and social education.”

This honestly intrigues me that a group of believers are choosing to intentionally engage a community that seems so far from most Christians.  So this begs the question, in your [honest] opinion, is this [interaction] effective?  Positive or negative?  Why?

I am looking forward to the conversation.